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How Relationships Work: Negotiating Differences, Part 2- 03/17/15

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By , March 18, 2015 2:45 pm

We praised God singing “God of the Impossible” by Sara Reeves and “Just As I Am” by Travis Cottrell.

Kathy reviewed last weeks lesson about reconciling relationships and the importance of forgiveness.

We continued learning about negotiating differences, especially in regards to long standing relationships that are not reconciled.  She talked about the fact that out of our hollow places of pain can flow rivers of living water and guarding against the devastating affects of bitterness.

How Relationships Work: Negotiating Differences – 3/10/15

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By , March 11, 2015 3:09 pm

This week we sang “Jesus Paid It All” by Kristian Stanfill and “Live Your Love” by the Katinas.

Kathy began with a review, reminding us that God’s ministry to us and for us is reconciliation.  He reconciled us to Himself through Jesus and now calls us to reconcile with others.  A heart that is for reconciliation has experienced God’s grace and forgiveness for itself, is wise and wily in response to others, desires connection, and is open to newness in relationship.

This week’s lesson focused on negotiating differences in relationships.  We looked at what God’s word says about handling offenses, whether we have sinned or have been sinned against.  We learned how to stay within Biblical boundaries when negotiating differences by 1) going to our brother in private with the goal of reconciliation, 2) going quickly but choosing our time wisely, 3) keeping our comments current,  4) not judging or accusing, 5) admitting and taking responsibility for our wrongs, and 6) speaking the truth in love.

Kathy reminded us that God is the secure foundation for all of our other relationships.

How Relationships Work: Reconciling Differences-03/03/15

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By , March 5, 2015 1:21 pm

Today we began with praising God singing: “Christ Be All Aroud Me” by Michael W. Smith & “Amazing Grace/My Chains Are Gone” by Chris Tomlin.

Kathy continued our series on relationships with a review of  what are some stumbling blocks to Godly relationships and then began teaching about the process of reconciliation.

How Relationships Work: Stumbling Blocks

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By , February 24, 2015 4:35 pm

We sang, “Christ Be All Around Me”, by Michael W. Smith and “I will Sing of My Redeemer” by Travis Cottrell.

In a review Kathy reminded us that the four building blocks of relationships are unity, intimacy, vulnerability, and love.

Today we looked intently at the stumbling block of offense. To understand offenses we need to understand forgiveness. She discussed what forgiveness is and what it is not


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By , January 26, 2015 9:52 pm

If you want to grow in loving others well, join me for the teaching series “How Relationships Grow.” We start back Tuesday, January 27th with class at 10 a.m. and 7 p.m.–or follow online anytime!


In Luke 17:1, Jesus says: “It is impossible that no offenses should come.” Wow! I am blown away that this is in the Bible. Thank you, Lord, for saying! This validates my experience–I keep running into opportunities to take offense and to offend others.


His solution to our offense-filled world is found in John 13:34, “Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” Now THAT is impossible! I know I am not able to love like that. Yet I find faith and strength knowing that the One who issues this commandment is God of the Impossible.


He tells me that He has “poured out His love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit.” (Romans 5:5) If I walk in dependence on the Spirit, allowing His fruit to grow in my heart, I can experience what seems out of my reach. Although it seems impossible, God can prune my offensive behaviors and words. He can teach me to let others’ offenses roll off my back. He can do this, and He will–through His boundless love!


“With man this is impossible, but not with God; all things are possible with God.”

Mark 10:27

How Relationships Work: Love/Hate Relationships – 10/14/14

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By , October 14, 2014 10:07 pm

This morning we sang “Man of Sorrows” by Hillsong Live and “10,000 Reasons” by Matt Redman. Kathy reminded us that choosing the fruits of the Spirit is NOT about performance. We are choosing to STOP and CONNECT with the Lord, asking Him what He wants to produce in us in that moment. Remember – CONNECTION, CONNECTION, CONNECTION. All of these lessons are in the context of RELATIONSHIP.

We continued to learn how relationships work by examining FORGIVING LOVE and how sometimes we need to “forgive” God…not that God ever needs to be forgiven; He is perfect. Sometimes we FEEL offended, we FEEL disappointed, we FEEL hurt and we need to reconcile those feelings by extending forgiveness and reconnecting with the lover of our souls.

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